Having a girl as a first child is a bless, in all the ways you will enjoy it, but as they always say having a girl makes you look older sooner than having a boy, YESSSS soooooo right, at the age of 10 boys are still childish but girls start to be more mature and "girly", at the age of 12 boys are starting to get boyish but girls are young ladies. I'm 37 years old and my 12 and half baby is only 3 cms shorter than I do!!!! She's starting teenaging with all its pros and cons, with each passing day she's becoming a lady, inside and outside transformation, I can not even remember when did this happen? Last week she was not that big?? Now she wears almost the same size as I do, even her look in outfits is no longer childish, it's a ladie's look... she imitates me and celebrities instead of imitating Hanna Montana and cartoon characters. We even had our "fight" about dyeing her hair and light makeup. Just a few years ago she was asking me to let her sleep one more night in my bed, now she's offended if I asked her for a kiss in public. I can not see the lady she's turning to as I still see the baby that she was almost 12 years ago, when I first held her and our first nights sleepless in my living room and me crying for not understanding why she's crying and how to soothe her. In a day and night she was a little "caterpillar" now she's a grown up "Butterfly ".
And now I am starting to feel getting older ...my time to shine has ended and her time to shine has to start.......with all the love may her days be bright full as her eyes.
Wednesday, July 20, 2016
A girl as a first child
Thursday, January 28, 2016
A new kind of Love
My husband and I we experienced the most and magical fairy tale kind of love. The one you only hear about in stories like Romeo & Juliette, Othello & Desmond. ...that kind of love full of emotions and tragedies and actions to tell and be proud you lived it to the most.
Yet, yes I wrote all verbes in the past tense. Not a grammatical error nor because it does no longer exists, but because after 13 years of marriage and 4 kids it took another shape, another way, another kind of love.
Now our love is more rationally and emotionally stabilized, we are more independent of each other as we now comprehend each other.
But what I realized from our relationship that men are so different from women in their way of love after marriage and kids.
God granted women the ability to love each and every member of the family with the fullest extent of emotions she can feel. She can still deeply madly in love with her husband with the same intensity of her first sight, and being madly overwhelmed with motherhood love and devotion to all her children equally.
Men on the other side do not posses that kind of ability, they remain madly in love till they are blessed with a child, now their love is devided by two or more😊. They express their love to their spouses by loving her and their children all equally. They possess a quantity of space for love and relative emotions for all the family that they can not overload it by any means. Not that they are lesser than women, but I think that's because they have tones of work and other ( non family related) loads to live with. That they preserve a certain amount of love and not to be exceeded.
When we " women" realize that pre-marriage love is not the same kind aspost-marriage love, we will find inner-peace and comfort in our relationships .
Try to understand men and don't think that he will change...neither are you; we can ask for more and we will get it for a period of time, but men will never be as Romantic as before all the time.
After all.... men are from Mars and women are from Venus....we only met here on Earth.